Now if you live in New England, as I do, you have no doubt heard the expression, “you can’t get there from here.” That’s New England speak for “it’s way to complicated to give you any reasonable directions” or, “I have no idea how to get there.” That said, you have got to admit that getting there can at times be extremely difficult!
I remember wanting to there once. That particular time, there was a place called Dublin, New Hampshire. Dublin is the headquarters for Yankee Magazine. It sounded like a quaint place to go on a day I had nothing else going on. I looked at a map to see which routes in needed to take. This was, of course, long before the GPS took care of all such problems. Dublin has no four lane highways anywhere near it. It has a single two lane numbered road that passes through its center. That is not at all unusual in rural anywhere. Thing was, I had it in my mind that you should be able to get anywhere interesting in about an hour. That was about the time I was beginning to believe “you can’t get there from here.” I did end up going there, however once I was there it occurred to me that it had not occurred to me that it takes about 3 seconds to slowly crawl through such a town’s center. I was left with the question, why had I wanted to go there in the first place when I probably would have been better off staying here.
Now there is another scenario I’m sure we have all experienced. We decided there is the place we want to vacation at that we have never been to before. Well, we leave home, here and make our way there. Once there, and suitably happy with where we are staying, we make the decision to head out and see the sights. Everyone knows that all the sites are somewhere removed from where we went to, there, which is now here, and so we are once again confronted with going from here to there. Once we are at are destination if it happens to be a place known for its food, for instance, we will ask a hotel employee for a recommendation and we’ll be given one. Once again we are confronted with the getting from here to there, and that can be particularly troubling if there happens to be a city in a foreign country and we don’t know the language. In attempting to follow the first set of instructions we discovered we’ve become hopelessly lost, and not only do we no longer know how to get there, but we’ve also lost sight of how to return to what had been here. Our sense of self-assuredness gone, we hail a cab to get us there, and hope he really knows how to get there. Worse, the cab driver, a person who knows exactly enough English to say he knows how to get there, but he instantly recognizes we don’t know how to get there and since he can take us as he pleases and insure his fare is fair, as far as he is concerned anyway.
There are times in everyone’s life where there is the best possible place to go. Those are the times we say to someone “I want to be somewhere, anywhere but here.” Most people will passively agree with us or somehow show the acceptance of our situation. But if someone were to press us about where we would go, we find that we don’t have an answer for where there actually is. Worse, we haven’t even considered how to get there. Now some people will say, don’t worry about it, just go! I am certainly guilty of having said those words. I made a plan and went there. I lasted there for about a year and then made another plan to return to here.
Well, that brings me back to that old Yankee saying, “you can’t there from here.” Maybe the truth in those words are this: once you get there, where ever it may be, you are really here and there is just another place to go. We never really leave here. We are always here and here is actually a pretty good place to be. If we don’t like it here, maybe we just need to change things up a little, come up with better plans, and sometimes, just grin and bear it. Certainly things could be worse there but we just a certain know how things are here. Isn’t the known better than the unknown?